There are times in life when your ideals will be challenged by circumstance and even, by people. You will sit and think one day, you want or want to marry or be with a man who is super smart and directed, and this could be your ultimate dream in a relationship along with falling in love. And one day you meet that man and the sequence of events in the relationship with this person proves that this is not at all what you had imagined.
This is the first disappointment. Because it takes away an initial ideal of perfection and even investment in that idea and destroys it because you realize that: All that glitters, is not gold. And sometimes, what you don’t know and what you don’t anticipate is exactly what makes you the happiest. This frightened me because it made life less predictable than I had thought. And unpredictable, is uncomfortable and frightening.
The destruction or challenging of any “initial ideal” is heartbreaking because you suddenly realize that you don’t know. And even when you think you know – you still don’t know. Also, there will always be people who challenge your character and who you are. Who will tell you that you’re “too much” or that “you’re not as pretty as you should be” or make you feel like “your intelligence and opinion is offensive”. There will be people who will make you feel less, only just for those people to make themselves feel more.
You will be frustrated, disappointed and hurt by people, and that’s okay. That is what life is. It’s a series of interactions that shape you – allow yourself to be shaped by every experience, but be conscious of what you are becoming. It’s difficult sometimes, and sometimes people tell you and you disagree – listen anyway then think about it YOURSELF. Every decision and change needs to come from you. It can’t be imposed. And when you’re feeling broken and by hurtful words or disappointments from what you thought was and turned out isn’t – it can really affect you – But remember who you are.